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It’s been a while since I’ve written about Bones, but I thought I should jump back on the wagon.  This week’s epsiode was about a gamer (famous for his high score on an old school game) was murdered.  The team investigated how he got his high score as well as his competitors.  On the side, Hodgins, Sweets, and the intern Colin Fisher have gotten three tickets for the movie Avatar so have to switch spots standing in line to get good seats for the movie.  It was entertaining only because they have to make up weird excuses to leave and for where they have been because they shouldn’t be standing in line for a movie while they are supposed to be working.

First off, how much do you think Avatar had to pay to get intertwined into the script like that?  It was kind of weird…not only because I don’t really understand what the movie is about, but that’s a conversation for another place.  Of course there were the gratuitous digs at how sci-fi nerds never get laid…but oh wait, Fisher is nearly 100 girls that he has slept with, so that disproves the myth, obviously.  I don’t always appreciate these kinds of comments.  I’m kind of a sci-fi nerd.  I don’t think an enthusiasm about science fiction is an automatic turn-off.

Speaking of this.  Sweets meets this girl in line for Avatar who completely throws herself at him and offers to show him the tattoos on her breasts multiple times.  He seems into it, but ultimately has to resist because he has a girlfriend.  But then Fisher shows up and they are introduced and automatically get into the tent to have sex.  I’m sorry, but how has loud, active sex in a flimsy tent while in a very busy line for a movie?  It just seemed really out of place and forced.  But then we got to have Hodgins be all sweet and comfort Sweets because he was feeling blue about the number of women whom he’s slept with.  It’s about the quality not the quantity, according to Hodgins.  And it’s all good, because Sweets has probably had sex more times that Fisher even though Fisher’s had more partners.  So isn’t that still about quantity?  Sweets said nothing about how good the sex is.  They just figured that having more sex was better than more partners.  While the sentiment was sweet, I didn’t really buy the argument in the end.

But I did like that they showed that not all “sci-fi nerds” are men, that women can enjoy sci-fi as well.  Even if their main example was a woman who would sleep with anyone who sounded like they had an interesting job.  Not the best representation of women sci-fi fans, but at least it’s a start.

There was a short little line about sexism in the gaming industry which I appreciated.  The top gamer now that this guy has been murdered is a woman.  Booth makes a comment about how it’s good for business because more people would pay to see a woman.  The woman “fights” back by saying that it shouldn’t be about the gamer’s gender but their skill.  I liked this woman.  She was pretty awesome.  And she even fixed her own machine!

And as always, I liked that there wasn’t a whole love of Bones/Booth relationship drama in this episode.  Always a fan when they do that.  But there was a lot of talk of sex in this episode, what with the counting of the partners and number of times and all.  I just don’t really understand why it should matter how many times you have had sex versus another person of how many partners so and so has had.  It should be about your experiences and what is best for you, not a competition among men to see how many chicks they can score.  And trying to say it’s about quality and not quantity does not count when your evidence of that is simply how many times you’ve had sex as opposed to the number of partners.

So here’s the thing with Bones recently…there hasn’t been a whole lot of storyline outside of the investigation in the episode.  Which is ok, the investigation is usually what I find most interesting, especially how they discover all of the things that they do.  But it’s kind of hard to write reviews of an episode when there’s not a lot outside of the investigation because that’s not really what I want to write about.


Last night I just wanted to curl up and watch TV, so that’s what I did.  But in doing that, I didn’t create my usual Tuesday Link Love list.  So here it is…on Wednesday.  This might also mean that I’ll move Thursday Link Love to Friday just for this week so I can make a more complete list.  Fun times.  As always, don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing/reading in the comments!!

Small Strokes: The Feminist Lens: Juliet, Naked

But the exact issue I had with his previous novels of his I had read (the lack of well-rounded female characters, for those of you not following along) was turned on its head with Juliet, Naked. (If you haven’t read the book and plan on doing so, DO NOT READ FURTHER! Unless you don’t mind spoilers.)

Bitch Blogs: The Transcontinental Disability Choir: True Blood: Sookie Stackhouse, Telepathy, and Disability

But the reason I looked forward to True Blood is because the Sookie Stackhouse novels feature a disabled heroine. And, as a person with disabilities, that is something that I do not get to see very often. Despite the fact that we make up an estimated 20% of the population, our representation in film and television is quite small. This means that I rarely get to engage with a character who is like me, with whom I can connect because we share commonalities.

Bitch Blogs: New Moon’s success means women hate sex. Obviously.

However, lately it seems like every single teenage behavior is being connected to the franchise in some way, from negotiating gender identity to interacting with parents. Could it be that Twilight is the compass with which we can navigate the state of Young People Today? Do we never have to think about the nuances and complications of human existence again because Stephenie Meyer has done that dirty work for us? Well, Jonathan Zimmerman at the Chicago Tribune certainly thinks so.

According to Zimmerman’s article “Hooking up’s gender gap,” the number of young women who saw Twilight Saga: New Moon (which was a lot) tells us that, “Girls want love, not just sex.” And he got this from New Moon how, exactly?

Tiger Beatdown: Titanic: Girl Power Sleeps with the Fishes

One of the many things you come to appreciate about Titanic, when re-watching it as an adult, are the complexities of Billy Zane’s performance. Zane plays Caledon Hockley – steel magnate, loveless-arranged-marriage candidate, avowed hater of the poor – who, as you can probably guess from his preposterous name and the aforementioned list of qualifications, is the villain of the piece. Oh sure, you might think that in a movie entitled Titanic, the villain would be, I don’t know, an iceberg or something! Ah, but no. You would be wrong. The villain is Billy Zane. And what a villain he is, let me tell you!

Equal Writes: Fear and female experience

You can tell me my fear is unreasoning, childish, deserving of psychotherapy—and maybe it’s true. I know intellectually that the dark isn’t full of potential rapists and attackers, knives and penises at the ready, but it doesn’t stop me walking on the opposite side of the street to avoid the bushes, checking behind all the trees and bins in my front yard before crossing to the house, and keeping an eye over my shoulder while fitting my key in the lock. It doesn’t stop me trembling at every light that turns on, every gate that bangs open, every tree branch that rustles. I also know that my fear of the dark—and especially of being alone in the dark—has intensified since my own assault.

Why hello there, everyone!  I’ve spent my lovely weekend off relaxing and getting addicted to the British television series Doctor Who.  It’s pretty exciting.  I hope everyone else has had a lovely weekend.

Here are some of my favorite posts of the past couple days.  Don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing and reading in the comments!

30 Rock Season 1 [] – as much as I love the show, this post brings up a lot of the problematic aspects of 30 Rock. Are you a feminist? Or a feminine-ist? [Deeply Problematic] – “Oh, come on!” is right!

Guest Post: Disability and Asexuality [FWD/Forward] – a must-read guest post at one of my new favorite blogs!

Sorry for being a little late on the link love today, but I figured y’all would be ok with it.  Here are some of my favorite posts from the past coule days.  Don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing and reading lately!

Dear Imprudence: How Not to Give Advice [FWD/Forward] – the start of a new series deconstructing the bad advice that advice columns give about disability issues.

To be safely thus: my efforts to creat a safe space [Deeply Problematic] – something every blogger (and every person, really) should think about.

The Fascinating Evolution of Birth Control…Just don’t call chastity belts ‘contraception’ [The American Virgin] – a look at Newsweek’s online feature about the history of birth control.

VERONICA MARSBased on the recommendations of others (particularly meloukhia), I have started watching Veronica Mars…and I love it!  I am about halfway through the second season right now and I can’t wait to get the next discs from Netflix.  There are of course some problematic things with the show (stereotypes, slut-shaming, etc…more later), I think that Veronica Mars is an overall feminist show.

Veronica Mars is a show about (surprise!) a teenager named Veronica Mars, played by Kristen Bell.  Her dad is the ex-sheriff, now private detective in a town in Southern Califonia called Neptune.  Veronica plays a large role in her dad’s private detective agency and all runs investigations through her school.  Her best friend, Wallace, is usually her accomplice and she has a group of people who she turns to for information.  She has run-ins with the now sheriff who pretends like he doesn’t want her help, but often takes the leads that she gives him.

The running investigation in the first season is that of the murder of her best friend, Lily, which is solved in the season finale.  Lily was the daughter of a wealthy family whose son (and Lily’s brother) is Veronica’s ex-boyfriend (then boyfriend again in the second season).  In the second season, the running investigation is that of a bus crash that killed 8 students.  There appears to be an explosion in the bus that caused it to drive over a cliff.  As I am not done with the second season yet, the investigation of the bus crash is not yet over.

So, why is this a feminist show?  Veronica Mars is all about a girl taking her life into her own hands.  She investigates everything from blackmail to murder to theft.  She doesn’t care what people think about her and she’s not afraid to get in people’s faces.

Other than the fact that Veronica Mars is about a kick-ass woman, it tackles some really great issues.  The show actually has a pretty good representation of the diversity of Southern California.  Many other shows that take place in Southern California fall into the same old tv show model…an all-white cast.  While a large amount of the cast of Veronica Mars is white, there are also a large amount of African American and Latino/a characters that are major players in the show.  The show also tackles class issues.  The high school that Veronica Mars attends is heavily populated by “09-ers” – the people who live in a certain zip code that are very wealthy.  Veronica, on the other hand, is not wealthy and there is a big divide between the “09-ers” and people who don’t live in that zip code.  Veronica has the uncanny ability to somewhat navigate between these two worlds.  Her best friend Lily and her ex-boyfriend Duncan, as well as her other ex-boyfriend, Logan, are all “09-ers.”  She kind of fit in with that world, at least with those people.  But once she doesn’t associate with them anymore, she’s cast out of the “09-er” crowd.  These situations really highlight class issues that happen in real life, and not just in high school.  The show also handles issues of rape, exploring and developing one’s sexuality, and domestic violence.

For such a feminist show, though, there is a large amount of slut-shaming.  Women who slept with their boyfriends, slept with people other than their boyfriends, or were even raped were shamed.  Most of the shaming was done by high school boys — and even occassinally high school girls — but I didn’t really think that it was necessary.  Not only was there slut-shaming for women who freely expressed their sexuality, there was slut-shaming for women who were raped and had not control over what was happening to them.  Not cool.

There was some occassional problematic language and events, but the slut-shaming was the only ongoing, overall thing that I saw wrong with the show.  What do others think?  Is there something I’m missing?  Or is Veronica Mars really the awesome, feminist show that I see it as?

5x04_1In this episode, Booth and Brennan are investigating a murder in a D.C. suburb.  Everyone in the neighborhood is sleeping with each other and have rivalries between each other.  I honestly wan’t that interested in the investigation this episode, so I’m going to leave that part of the storyline at that.  The main side storyline is that Parker, Booth’s son, thinks that Booth needs a girlfriend.  He’s going around to Angela and Cam and asking them to be Booth’s girlfriend.  Brennan finally asks Parker why he thinks Booth needs a girlfriend (while out to a meal with Booth and Parker as an effort on Booth’s part to show that he has a social life to Parker, it wasn’t that much of an effort in my book).  Parker’s response: because he wants a pool.  His friend’s dad got a new wife and they moved into a house with a pool and he thinks that’s how it works…I found that kind of amusing.

The part of the episode that bothered me the most involved one of the various interns that we see throughout the episodes.  This episode featured the intern (I don’t remember his name) who is Muslim.  The team often questions how he can be a man of science and believe in this religion (not because he’s Muslim, but because he’s religious in general since none of them are).  In this episode, we find out that he is faking his Middle Eastern accent.  Cam immediately jumps to the “he’s a terrorist because he faked an accent” thing.  I thought that was completely uncalled for.  It turns out that he faked his accent because he thinks that it will make people take his religious beliefs more seriously.  I just saw this whole storyline as pointless and kind of insulting.  Whenever this intern is on the show, the storyline with his character centers around his religious beliefs.  I understand that his religion is a big part of the character, but I’d like to get to know the character in a different aspect of his life.  And was it really necessary to have him faking an accent?

I really like the interactions between Sweets, the psychologist, and Brennan, the anthropologist.  Brennan does not hold much regard for psychology and Sweets always tries to push his point and they always have entertaining interactions.  But I did not like Sweets referencing Freud in this episode in regards to why Parker was obsessed with Booth getting a girlfriend.  Anything that references Freud seriously is hard for me to handle.

I was liking that the past couple episodes have not tried to focus on Booth and Brennan’s potential romantic relationship.  And this episode kind of followed suit.  But then we got to the end when Booth asked Brennan out to a meal with him and Parker.  Parker, of course, had to ask why Brennan wouldn’t be his father’s girlfriend.  Which, of course, led to an awkward moment.  (I have to prepare myself for next week, because from the preview it looks like it is going to be all about their potential romantic relationship.)

I have been kind of disappointed with Bones lately.  Not because the episodes have been incredibly bad, but because they just haven’t impressed me that much.  I still enjoy the episodes, but I am not left wow-ed.  I just don’t know what else to say about this episode because it wasn’t bad, but it wasn’t exactly great either.  Bones really needs to step it up!

Also check out meloukhia’s review up at this ain’t livin’.

Have you seen this commercial for pistaschios featuring Levi Johnston (Bristol Palin’s ex-fiance and father of her child)?  No?  Well, take a look here:

Oh, teen pregnancy, it’s so funny.

I find it kind of amusing, actually, that Levi Johnston has been getting so much attention out of this.  Last I heard, it is rumored that he is going to pose for PlayGirl.  Now he’s making fun of the fact that he fathered a child while he was a teenager.  But it’s ok, because he uses protection while eating pistaschios.

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