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Happy Thursday everyone!  I’m starting to get excited about the upcoming weeks…seeing friends, Thanksgiving, busy days at work.  Here are some of my favorite posts from the past couple days.  Don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing and reading in the comments!!

Scarleteen: Sixth Carnival of Feminists

We’re pleased to host the 6th edition of the newly reborn Feminist Carnival! In the spirit of rebirth, and in alignment with the readers and mission of Scarleteen, this round puts it’s focus on young feminist bloggers and feminist issues particularly pertinent to younger women.

I keep forgetting to submit links to the carnival, so I am not featured, but there are some great posts in this latest carnival of feminists!

this ain’t livin’: Inappropriate Word Use: Don’t Do It

“Rape” is actually a pretty problematic and tricky word. The roots it is derived from refer to seizure and force, but it also carries an overtone of shaming. It’s not about violation, it’s about despoiling women. It’s not about the denial of bodily autonomy, it’s about damaged goods. These implications have kind of been lost with time, but they’re there.

The Undomestic Goddess: The Undomestic 10: Elissa Stein

2. What does feminism mean to you? Working to continually challenge society to accept, respect, and acknowledge that women are equal, but different, from men.

Elissa Stein wrote the book Flow: The Cultural Story of Menstruation.  I just picked this book up yesterday and am really excited to read it!

The Sexist: Holiday Gifts for the Body-Conscious Little Girl

The holiday season is approaching, which means it’s time to roll out more products to help our little girls feel very bad about their bodies. (That, or pregnant). Over the years, toy-makers have boldly invented new mechanisms by which they can make money off of the body consciousness of young girls. Below, inventors push girls to look simultaenously curvier (grow boobs already!), skinnier (but make sure to lose your baby weight!), sexily reproductive (be six years old AND skinny AND pregnant!) and matronly (breastfeed babies with the boobs you don’t have!).

Bitch Flicks: Flick-Off: Taken

Basically, the film makes absolutely no attempt whatsoever to comment on the atrocity of sex trafficking—it serves only as a plot device to help Bryan redeem his broken relationship with his virginal daughter.

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Happy Sunday!  The start of the week is soon upon us, so it’s time to get caught up on some blog reading.  Here are some of my favorite posts of the past couple days.  Don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing and reading in the comments!

Hollywood Women Speak Out [Women & Hollywood] – Glenn Close, Nicole Kidman, and Heather Graham are doing some great things.

Where Are All the People with Disabilities? [this ain’t livin’] – a look at how people with disabilities are portrayed in film and television.  Also cross-posted at FWD/Forward.

Announcing Foul-Up Fridays [Deeply Problematic] – RMJ has a new weekly feature that is all about examining her own use of langugage and how it is problematic.

On intention [o filthy grandeur!] – “it wasn’t my intent to…”

I hope everyone has had a good week.  As always, this post features some of my favorite posts from the past couple days as well as some of my favorite posts from the week that were already featured in Tuesday or Thursday‘s link love posts.  Don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing/reading in the comments!

New Link Love

Cis [this ain’t livin’] – a definition and examination of the word ‘cis.’

Are You There, God? It’s Me, Miley: On Privacy, Teen Sexuality, and the Miley Cyrus Twitter [Bitch Blogs] – who’s a real teen – Miley Cyrus or Taylor Swift?  I may not agree with this post, but it’s a good read.  And you have to see this rap video that Miley made…it makes me laugh every time:

Moore illuminate evil of a corrupt system [Womanist Musings] – a look at Michael Moore’s new movie Capitalism: A Love Story.

An Education: “mini review” [Entertainment Realm] – Nick Hornby can write about women!

Weekly Link Love

Feminism that doesn’t advance women is no feminism at all [Zero at the Bone] – Chally examines the use of ableist language.

Another Way Language Excludes People [Small Strokes] – feminists often think about how the language that they use is exclusionary. But the use of English in relation to non-English speakers is not often commented on with the same kind of concern.

What if my gaze mattered? On the continuing dominance of the white-male-hetero-gaze and how it’s infiltrating the “feminine” world of Twilight [Professor What If…?] – “All the discussion of making the New Moon film friendlier to male audiences has my feminist panties in a bunch. Why must the Twilight films court the male demographic?”

There have been a lot of really great posts over the past couple of days.  And thanks to my brand new iPhone (yes, I’m officially addicted), I can more easily manage the number of posts that come into my Google Reader.  Here are some of my favorites of the past couple days.  As always, don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing/reading!

Another Way Language Excludes People [Small Strokes] – feminists often think about how the language that they use is exclusionary.  But the use of English in relation to non-English speakers is not often commented on with the same kind of concern.

How to Mess Up [this ain’t livin’] – everyone makes mistakes.  But there’s a right way to go about doing that.

The details of your abortion online? [Salon Broadsheet] – there is a new Oklahoma law that posts the details of every abortion performed in the state to be put on a public website.

With all the talk recently of ableist language and the use of inclusionary language, I decided it was about time that I own up to my own ableist language.

I hate that this language is so ingrained into my own vocabulary.  I am aware that I do it.  I cringe most every time that the word comes out of my mouth.  But most of the time, it just slips out — it’s something that has been part of my vocabulary so long that it’s just something that comes out.  But that’s no excuse really.  What word am I talking about?  One that our society uses so often that many people don’t even think of it as an offensive or exclusionary word: lame.

I can’t tell you how many times throughout my life that I have used the phrase “that’s lame” or “don’t be lame” in my life.  It’s been a part of my vocabulary since grade school.  I wasn’t really aware of the exclusionary and offensive nature of the word until college.  That’s when I made the connection between the word “lame” and it’s association to people with mental disabilities.

But my socialization to the world “lame” is no excuse for the continued use of it.  I’m definitely more conscious of using it when I am typing because I have to think more about my word choice.  But when I’m talking, “lame” still slips out every now and then.  I am definitely more conscious of it now that I have developed my feminism and learned more about how forms of oppression interact with each other.  I catch myself when I say it now.  If I don’t catch myself before it comes out, I cringe after I say it and think “I can’t believe I just said that.”  I definitely don’t say it as much as I used to.  I’m more aware of it now.  But it’s definitely still there.

This post is not meant as a way for me to get people to tell me “it’s ok as long as you are aware of what you are doing.”  If I have learned anything from developing my feminism as well as becoming involved in the feminist blogging community, it is that no one is perfect.  But these flaws have to be examined.  And over the past couple days, I have been increasingly reminded that “ableism is not feminism.”  I have to own up to my use of ableist language.  I have to work towards eliminating ableist language from my vocabulary.  But, I do not expect my admission to using ableist language and my word that I will work towards improving this will make it all better.  It won’t.

While I’m not expecting people to tell me that I’m not at fault for using ableist language as long as I admit to is and work towards ending it, I do hope that this post will encourage other people to question the nature of the language they use and how it may be exlusionary or offensive.

I hope you all have had a great week!  I’ve finally started a somewhat regular work schedule, as some of you may know.  Because of this, I am asking for guest/cross posts from my readers!  Once I get used to my work schedule, I will probably be back to posting more regularly.  Right now, the weekly features should not suffer, it’s mainly the number of posts.  But I am trying to have at least one post a day outside of weekly features, but we’ll see if I can keep that up.

As always, check out the link love from Tuesday and Thursday.  This post features some of my favorite posts from the past couple days as well as some of my favorite posts of the week that were already featured in link love this week.

New link love:

What’s a Little Nudity Between Friends: Racism in the Fashion World [Womanist Musings] – by examining a specific photospread featuring a white woman and a Black woman, Renee looks at the fetishization of Black women’s bodies by the fashion world and society.

A Response to “Lady Mags” – Love Them, Flaws and All, or Leave Them? [The Other Side of the Apple] – this is a new blog that I recommend you all check out!  This post looks at what “lady mags” have to offer, both positives and negatives.

Feminism 101: On Anger [Shakesville] – anger is a pretty rational thing for a subjugated person.

Get Your Agenda Off My Body [Recursive Paradox] – required reading for cis feminists and womanists on activist based transphobia.

Want to be a hipster girlfriend? Look like a child. [Swimsuit Issue] – American Apparel’s advertisements set unrealistic expectations for women.

Weekly Link Love:

Straight Girls: Your Pretend Facebook Relationships Are Not Funny or Cute [Pieces of String] – straight girls in relationships on Facebook add to the erasure of lesbian relationships.

Feminism and Joss Whedon: Time To Talk About the Boys [this ain’t livin’] – I’m pretty much obsessed with meloukhia’s “Feminism and Joss Whedon” series. This installment looks at the portrayal of male Actives in Dollhouse.

Raising a Feminist/Raised a Feminist: A Mother’s and Daughter’s Perspective [Feministing] – a post from a mother and a daughter on raising and being raised a feminist.

Language: why “retarded” and “lame” are not okay [Deeply Problematic] – this is a cross post from Phira featured on Deeply Problematic about the problematic nature of language.

Happy Thursday!  Here are some of my favorite posts of the past couple days.  Don’t forget to leave links to what you have been writing and reading in the comments (self-promotion is awesome).

Marriage [Clarissa’s Blog] – a look at the differing benefits of and drawbacks to marriage between women and men.

Language: why “retarded” and “lame” are not okay [Deeply Problematic] – this is a cross post from Phira featured on Deeply Problematic about the problematic nature of language.

How liberating was the sexual revolution, after all? [Equal Writes] – “American women have come a long way in the quest for equality, but progress for women in America should not and cannot stop at sexual liberation.”

Carnival of Feminists #3 [Female Impersonator] – some great posts are featured here…including one of mine!

Feminism and Joss Whedon: Time to Talk About the Boys [this ain’t livin’] – I’m pretty much obsessed with meloukhia’s “Feminism and Joss Whedon” series.  This installment looks at the portrayal of male Actives in Dollhouse.